Wednesday, January 13, 2010

New Leaf




I feel like I need to talk about whats going on in my life whether its what people want to read or not, I'm doing this for me because I feel its important that I save this for myself.


OK




I've never been one of those people that get inspired by the

New Years Resolutions people try at the beginning of every year.

I've never done them.

Probably never will.

I've always looked at it like this;

That if something needs to change I'll change it when it feels right to me and when I'm willing to do something not by setting a date or waiting for the new year to roll around to do something about it.

like it or no that's how I feel.


Now that we have that Straight, I wanted to say that Joel and I have had many life changing talks recently & we have decided to turn over a new leaf with our relationship, our finances with everything in our lives.


WE are vowing to be more,


Healthy, kind, loving, responsible, honest, reliable, more spiritual people.




Starting with:


-Better church attendance


yes, I myself have struggled with that, not recently but I have in the past year and it does not help Joel to be better when I am doing it.

I love my new calling in primary and it has definitely helped me so much,

but I know I need to work on the desire to go more.



-Budget


Yes Joel and I have struggled to keep afloat many times this last year.

My part being, #1. I get depressed and like to shop or eat out.

# 2. I don't always have sense to wait on buying things.

# 3. I don't like to cook very much.


I'm working on it.

srsly.




-Speaking kind words


Yes for my part, I have a problem with saying whatever comes to my mind when I'm frustrated and I end up putting my foot in my mouth and have much much grief for it later, as I should.

Yes its immature.


& yes I know that,


A little kindness goes a long way.

As my Mom always says.

&

I just want to say I'm sorry to anyone I've ever done this to sometimes I can be such a drama queen. :(




-Be more prayerful in my decision making.


That a big one for me.

Too often I just go along with whatever someone else wants for me and my family.

Whether it be my husband, parents bro & sisters, my in laws, whatever.

I know there's no limit to how many times you can pray so why don't I always consult with him?

Especially with the big stuff?








This was is my short list of things we are working on as a family

and my own personal struggles I am working on.

I don't say any of these things, to offend anyone or get attention.

That's the last thing I want.


To me its important to write it down and my blog has helped me save my memories and help to get some venting out. Sorry.



3 comments:

Vegan Valerie said...

Nothing to be sorry for, Autumn! To the contrary, it's great to hear from you!

I know what you mean about yearly resolutions--it's easy to say a bunch of nice-sounding stuff, then forget all about it till next year rolls in. I have tried really hard to make meaningful goals this New Year. It sounds like you have too. Life is challenging, huh. But you are wonderful and strong so don't feel down. :)

I send you my love...

The Fauvers said...

I just wanted to say I am proud of you for wanting to make all of these changes. I don't think you knew this but we struggle with a lot of the same things it looks like. I used to struggle with church attendance as well for a long time. It will get easier.

And what woman doesn't get depressed and wants to go shopping for comfort. It is not a good habit or coping mechanism, I agree, but this too will get better.

Speaking kind words is something that I always have to be consciously aware of too. My family was not the yelling all the time type, but when someone was mad everyone knew it. It's like there was more excuse for being mad than any other emotion. Like being mad was okay. I don't know what your upbringing was like but it plays a role sometimes.
Also Fauver men can just be dang frustrating at times and stubborn. (I"m not stubborn :) or frustrating.)
Hang in there and do the best you can do and I'm here for you if you ever need to vent. After Josh and I had a really big fight once I knew I could talk to Josh's mom if i needed to and that helped. So I hope it helps to know you can talk to me and that I have been in somewhat, not exactly, but similar waters before. I still don't have it figured out, but I"m here if you need me.

Being more prayerful. That is a tough one that i am still working on myself. If you figure it out let me know. :)
I hope my two cents is not too much. Love you Autumn. Have a fabulous day!

Vegan Valerie said...

I love your comment, Heather, of how "Fauver men can just be dang frustrating at times and stubborn." Oh man! That cracked me up! I laughed because it is so often true!

But, like you, I am stubborn myself, from time to time.

We sister-in-laws really do have a lot in common--because we each live with a Fauver male! That alone, could be enough to bring us closer together, huh!

Love you both, Heather and Autumn. And here's to our frustrating, stubborn, and oh-so-likable Fauver husbands! :)